"All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone"
Blaise Pascal. French philosopher and mathematician
Meditation in the Buddhist tradition
The postmodern era has brought us addictive tendencies that are reflected in our need to constantly be distracted (i.e. busyness) resulting in difficulty in navigating spaces of emotional and spiritual discomfort. In fact, we polarize ourselves between avoiding or excessively identifying ourselves with the conflict.
Many spiritual traditions agree that the current global and climatic crisis is a reflection of an individual crisis of disconnection from our inner space. We have lost the ability to connect naturally with the infinite space of pure consciousness that inhabits us. We became rigid to protect ourselves and retain keeping alive the collective traumas of repression, domination and abuse of power. The challenge is to reconnect with an inner space of serenity where polarities fade and everything has permission to be.
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In my role as a coach and holistic therapist, contemplation and meditation play a fundamental role. Through practical breathing exercises, guided meditations, and traditional meditation that is delivered between sessions, the client gradually regains the confidence to sustain the discomfort of their emotional states. The compulsion to avoid conflict gradually lessens because the client lays solid foundations of inner serenity.
My role is to walk and support the client as they face their inner discomfort.
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From the Buddhist tradition, the human being needs to undertake a journey to return to his spiritual home, that is, to experience his divinity or Buddha-nature. The core of this contemplative tradition is meditation and this journey begins with mindfulness, which is the method to train the concentration muscle. This technique is a stepping-stone into the meditative path. Mindfulness is the gateway to Shamatha meditation (calm-abiding). Shamatha meditation is characterised by the stabilisation of the mind. In this, the meditator learns to cultivate inner tranquility. When the mind has stabilised enough, the meditator continues with Vipassana meditation. This is also called analytical meditation because it deals with mental discourse analysis, different from Shamatha meditation which deals with emotional conflicts. In Vipassana, the practitioner investigates how the mind works by self-inquiry. In order to transformation to take place, the meditator has to understand how mental acts arise in relationship and interrelate with other components, such as skhandas or aggregates and how these elements give rise to the idea of ​​the self.
Meditation and family constellations
Meditative practice nurtures the experience of "let it be" reducing our compulsive need to fix.
Conflict will always appear in different areas of life; however, we can learn to relate to conflict in a less reactive way.
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Meditation is the foundation. Family constellations is the cognitive training to be at ease with life seeing our personal history with love, compassion, and equanimity. Using both approaches, the person become friends with their mind becoming less reactive and far more relaxed